Caught in a trap

"We're caught in a trap, I can't move out..." - the famous words from a song by the King of Rock, Elvis Presley many years ago. Recently, this line was playing over and over in my head during a power-struggle with a friend.

To backtrack, this friend was there during a time when I needed someone. I accepted his help and appreciated it very much. My loyalty was undivided and unwavering.

So the master-slave relationship was born. Out of a once off acceptance of help, came a hold that was unbreakable.

I have since done everything from my side: I supported, I listened, I cried, I helped, I thanked, I cared... I even gave financial support to this friend, who is much better off financially than me. There was never a word of thanks or any acknowledgement of him noticing of appreciating what I did for him.

Eventually this situation started causing a lot of problems with family and friends as well as professionally. The 'relationship' started becoming taxing, it cost me money and jeopardised valuable relationships. I tried to end it many times, but my this man woudn't budge.

Eventually, a situation arised and although he was aware of the situation, he didn't offer assistance, although he was in a prime position to do so. I was not going to ask... but finally I realised that this was my out!

I ended the relationship and with that, dropped the weight of the world off my shoulders. I thought I'd miss this friendship, but I am not.

Sadly, sometimes a friendship is not all it seems. You may be over-invested in a relationship and the true elements of a friendship may be missing.