Will you say it to my face?

In recent weeks, I have witnessed many older, single women attacking younger women for no rhyme or reason. Unhappily married women also love to attack women that are happy indeed.

They also enjoy threatening these young women and harass them endlessly. The pack of wolverines all have one thing in common - they are all in their late forties to mid-fifties and many of them are single. Often-times they would 'adopt' a young, single girl and try to make her into a clone of them. Due to the fact that they are so 'nice' to her, she would believe that indeed they have her best interest at heart.

These women are neighbours, members of women's groups or members of social networking businesses. They have absolutely no problem carving someone up behind their back, via email or public blogs and even via instant messaging. They would accuse people of doing things that they do themselves. They would call one names, say "You are so ugly" and try to break you down in areas they perceive to be a problem for you, but little do they know you... Some of them would publicly say that a man has "small man syndrome" because he (very carefully and constructively) pointed out a weak area in your character.

"Anger, self-doubt, bitterness, and fear are just a few of the symptoms the single woman may face." says Tammy Beck, coach to single women over 50. These symptoms also cause jealousy of younger, happier women and this jealousy leads to attacks and jealous rages.

Wintercreeks.net says "I think it safe to say an insecure person is a critical person. Criticism is the seed of bitterness. Bitterness is the cancer that will destroy a relationship. Many a congregation have been poisoned with the seeds off bitterness."

According to Tasty Research spontaneous trait transference is a phenomenon where people are perceived as possessing a trait that they describe in others. Telling others that your math professor is lazy will cause them to infer that you are lazy. This works the other way too — describing positive attributes about your friend may ascribe you those attributes as well.Several experiments showed that people will associate personality traits to communicators mindlessly without logical rational. They also have a poor recollection of whether the communicator was describing themselves or someone else in a conversation.

As we say in NLP: People tell you all about themselves, all the time. Like looking in a mirror, squeezing that zit and it just gets bigger or there are just more of them, the more you squeeze - these women just don't back off.

I wonder if they would say these things to someone's face though?