The story goes that Julia Roberts' character realises she's in love with her best friend, whom she shared a 'hot month' with, 9 years ago, when he announces that he's getting married. She then sets out to stop the wedding four days before it's due to take place. Events take a turn for the worst when Julia kisses her friend on the morning of the wedding and the bride-to-be walks in on it.
That got me thinking about the words "I Love You" and when to say it - for the best results.
Walking through our lives, we are always looking for love and that one special person to love us. Often we feel obliged to say the 3 magic words, "I Love You" and at other times we'd love to say them, but we fear rejection if we are not sure that the other person feels the same.
When is it appropriate to say those words? Whenever you truly love someone. Always tell your family that you love them, tell your friends, your parents. Life is not in our own hands - we need to make the best of it.
Guard however against saying it too soon in a new relationship. Love takes time, no matter how good it feels. A new relationship is, after all 'new' and likely to be our main focus in anticipation of the fact that he may just be The One. It's easy to make yourself believe that you are in love.
I know women in relationships of 10 years plus who feel unloved by their husbands. The husbands don't say "I love you" and don't hold their hands or touch them with no ulterior motives. This is really sad as the women then start becoming aloof too and sooner or later the relationship fizzles out.
Not very unlike Julia Roberts, we can miss out on the love of our lives by not saying "I love you" with no fear, no holding back. The fact that someone else doesn't say it first, doesn't mean that they don't love you. In fact they may be harbouring the same fears that you are.
Don't hesitate - go say those words right now!
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