I believe in fairytale romances, such as my own marriage, but sadly many people don't put in the effort required to achieve this level of commitment. So I decided to do some research.
Why men like to marry younger women:
My research on this topic lead mainly to sites selling Russian Mail Order Brides, hence the reasons listed were mainly related to men who liked having sex with inexperienced women. I believe that is grossly one-sided. Just because a man orders a mail order bride, doesn't mean it's only for the sex.
According to the Human Life-History Project, the reason that men like to marry women who are years younger than themselves has been discovered: they have more grandchildren as a result. Although this idea has been around for a long time, few studies have been done to show that this is true and have demonstrated that more and healthier children are the result.
Younger women also tend to be more respectful and less tainted by negative life experiences that women that have been around the block a few more times. Younger women believe more in love and want to have fun, whilst older women want to have children or a career and the man is simply a side interest.
Why women like to marry older men:
During my research on this, I found that there is a lot of confusion between 'older men' and sugar daddies - there's a huge difference. Sugar daddy somehow has a 'sex-gifts-and-money'-connotation. For this reason, men are perceived as stupid and younger women as bimbos with no brains and such relationships are doomed by cyber-critics. People place people with age-gap relationships in a category without first learning all the facts.
Nevertheless, there are some valid benefits to 'dating' (note, not marrying) an older man:
Romance-wise, Sugar Daddies are far better than younger men. They’ve had years of experience to learn just what women want and they know how to please you. Older men are usually far more supportive of your dreams and ambitions and may have an idea of how you can reach them. Older men are more mature than guys your own age, as you’ve probably noticed. Older men know how to treat a woman, open doors for her, and generally respect her, they were raised in another time when these things were still taught. Sugar Daddies are usually more tolerant of issues such as baggage from childhood than a younger guy, since they have more life experience.
Can age-gap relationships work?
There are many well known age gap relationships such as Tony Curtis, 82, and Jill Vandenburg, 40, Des O'Connor, 75, and Jodie, 38, Michael Douglas, 63, and Catherine Zeta Jones, 38, or the late Anna Nicole Smith who married an ailing 89 year old oil tycoon when she was only 26.
I am very happy with my 'old man'. We were both involved with people our own age before, but I was too mature for someone my age and Wade's ex was too old for him. Maturity wise we meet each other half way and we can discuss things from the early 1900's when he was young - to 2007 when I was young. It's like two people from different planets connecting and seeing that we actually have so much in common. What's 19 years between friends anyhow? We've been together for close on 9 years, there's no chance I'll be a dumb bimbo forever or that Wade will get bored with me. That is another reason why men like younger women.
Older women are threatened when they see a younger woman dating a man the older woman's age - there is yet another opportunity passing them by, a missed chance, one less man who will look their way. Come on - I'm sure dating a toy boy is as much fun for an older woman as a young bimbo is for an older man!
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