There are a number of schools of thought, the two main schools being the "charitable school" which try to help where they can to make circumstances better for those in need or the "new age school". The new age school of thought is that you are responsible for your circumstances as "everything in life happens through choice".
A couple lost a child recently and the mother of the child started actively searching for meaning in losing a 6 year old child to cancer. She has concluded that it was in fact her choice to lose the child.
If you happen to be in a horrific accident where you lose all your limbs and organs, it's your choice - you chose to be in that particular place at that particular time. Do you buy that?
Personally I think that is totally ridiculous. Your life plan is mapped out before you and you don't have the power to make choices that these people give you the responsibility for.
Here's an example: You go to a restaurant and order a huge cheeseburger combo meal. The waitress brings you a chicken wrap or fish and chips. Is that your choice? No - you chose a big juicy cheeseburger!
According to the dictionary, choice suggests the opportunity or privilege of choosing freely .
A synonym for 'choice' is 'option', which implies a power to choose that is specifically granted or guaranteed .
When you choose to get involved in a new business venture, you are not guaranteed of the outcome, no matter how well you plan and strategise. Some things are out of your control.
Suggesting that you chose to go bankrupt, suggests that you knew that option existed upfront and you made a conscious, informed decision, based on having all the facts at hand at the time of making the initial decision.
If you are beating yourself up about a 'choice' you made that put you in the situation you are in right now, the only option you have is to shake off the blame right now.
Blame is what is holding you back from achieving what you are worth
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